Three Minimalist Lessons in My Thirties

35 items of clothing, 8 pairs of shoes, 3 bags

This week happens to be my birthday week. The last year has been a powerful one for me, and I think a lot of it has to do with minimalism. It is thirteen months now since I started downsizing my belongings. While I’m losing the material baggage, it feels like emotional parts of me are also shedding layers. I feel like I have finally figured out how to live. I thought it would be fun to write a post about what I have learnt in this time.

  1. We don’t need nearly as much stuff as we have. In the past I held onto a lot of things that I didn’t use simply because they were ‘my things’. I never really thought about whether they were useful to me or not. I had a lot of stuff that I was simply in the habit of owning. Sometimes it has been hard to remove those things because of this habit. Over the last year I have realised that when an object is not used, it is junk. After getting rid of so much, I am still finding stuff in my apartment that I have not used in months or years.
  2. Material possessions take up time, effort, money and space. Time was made for enjoying, not for dealing with junk. This is one of the most important lessons of minimalism, and it is the thought that stops me if I’m ever tempted to get something I don’t really need. Those early purges last year were a nightmare. I’d only just spent weeks shoving all my junk into the apartment and shortly after I was desperately trying to get rid of it. My rule now is to not buy anything I’m not sure I’ll need.
  3. Your space should reflect how you really live. I did a whole post about adapting space to suit needs. Our homes do not need to look a specific way. We can adapt any part of our space to suit our real needs. Forget about how a space is ‘supposed’ to be used, and fill it with the things that are useful to you. Don’t worry about what you’ve been told a home should look like, make it reflect your life.


Here’s to another year of learning how to live better!




  1. “We don’t need nearly as much stuff as we have.” love this. I have been trying to digest this for the past few months…trimming down stuff over and over to get down to what I really need. And stopping buying things on impulse…or at all. Learning how to borrow things that are needed if they are only needed for a short time instead of buy them! And if I do need to buy, going to the thrift store! thanks for sharing, really enjoy your blog 🙂

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  2. Of all the blogs on minimalism, yours hit the nail on the head. Having stuff just because it’s mine, means junk. Having to have a room look a certain way isn’t necessary. We retired almost two years ago. I have so much sitting in boxes out in our pole barn that I don’t even know what’s there. We put an addition on, and are renovating an older home. I have nothing decorated because it’s not quite the way it’s supposed to be. I have no idea of what it’s supposed to be. Of course, window trim would be nice. I’m going to go in and get rid of all those containers of accumulated jewelry and put it in the Goodwill bag. That’s a start. Thank you.

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  3. Reblogged this on Robin Cutler and commented:

    So I have this problem. I can’t write unless my living space is clean and clutter-free.

    I love this post from the blog “A Small Wardrobe.” I’ve been downsizing all of my belongings this year and can relate to her experience of feeling less burdened with fewer items. This is the year I turn the epic poem of my closet into a haiku. Yes, that is a metaphor. Go figure.

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  4. My mother died when I was on an overnight business trip. I came to her house with just an overnight bag. My daughter brought me one suitcase of items, including funeral clothes. I have been living with these same few items and supplementing with a few pieces of my mom’s. In Florida, you don’t need much. Can’t wait to weed out my wardrobe yet again. The time factor of maintaining, storing, and moving my junk has led me to get rid of about 50% of my belongings. I still have a long way to go. Great post – thanks for keeping it real! XO

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  5. Happy belated birthday, my fellow Aries mate. Ironically, I own a lot of things just because they are “my things” not because I need them. So thank you for sharing, I needed this!

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  6. happy Birthday and may it be a year of new discoveries. This was a great post and I enjoyed reading it. I’m in my 60’s but have been minimalizing for @ 5 years although I started with Flylady @ 10 years ago. You’ve got a head start.

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  7. The older I get, the more I agree with wanting to have less and less things! I am striving to live more of an “efficient” life where everything has a home within my home.. and so I stop tripping over so many of my things!

    Thanks for sharing ❤

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  8. Happy belated birthday! I admire you for going 13 months strong on this minimalizing endeavor. I have the opposite problem I suppose – although I’ve done some spring cleaning, there’s still so much of my wardrobe I don’t wear anymore. Maybe it’s just the nature of a vintage enthusiast. =/


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  9. Yes! This is so true! I’m 25 and I learned the top two lessons after living in one place for 2 years. I wanted to be like every other lady out there with the couch, tv stand, entertainment center, bedroom set, yada yada yada. When it came time to move, I was beyond overwhelmed! Now, I live a simple life. Not much material possessions and that’s okay with me! I don’t even own furniture!! I chucked my couch because it really wasn’t making me happy. Sitting on the floor doesn’t bother me a bit!

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  10. Happy Belated! I too started minimizing and it’s so much harder then one would think. I have been purging my kitchen, cleaning, bathing supplies, and random clutter. Once I have my daughter and lose weight I will purge myself of a lot of my wardrobe. You make a good point that it’s hard because those things are “yours”. I also think, for me, it has to do with all the money I wasted on that stuff and the shame in it. I want to give it purpose before I pass it along which makes less logical sense once it’s said out loud. Good luck on your journey! Great read.

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  11. I used to think that my flat reftected my personality. Actually it was only a bunch of items all of those having a shorter or longer story in my life. I was afraid of letting go these memories. Actually those thing were not memories, only dusty long-forgotten objects. If I didt not had to use them to remember I do not need to own them to remember.

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  12. I agree! I think simplicity really changes one’s perspective on life, and having more or buying more just begets wanting more. Having less keeps one closer to the earth. : )

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  13. You are making me think. Actually I’ve been thinking about getting rid of stuff (I have a LOT of stuff) lately. Sentimental stuff. Unused stuff. I’m going to keep reading you.

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