30 items of clothing, 8 pairs of shoes, 2 bags
When you get dressed, who are you getting dressed for?
Back in the days of the large wardrobe, I was dressing for a few different people. I was dressing for my friends, unknown randoms at hip joints, for my dates, and sometimes, begrudgingly, for work. All of these people and places seemed to require very different versions of me, and different outfits. This shopping pattern resulted in a chaotic wardrobe in which I struggled to feel comfortable.
Over a year and a half of downsizing my wardrobe, I learnt to shop for me. I observed where I spent most of time, and how I wanted to look and feel when I was at those places. With time I cared a lot less about whether I was pleasing someone else with my outfits, and a lot more about whether my outfits were pleasing me.
During this period of decluttering I also started to ask myself an important question: Who do I want to be when I grow up? In a seemingly separate and yet inevitably intertwined process, I started to think about what I wanted my life to look like a few years down the road.
It was really then that I became confident about my wardrobe choices.
Who do you want to be when you grow up? Can you shop for the future you?
I’m not suggesting you start investing in sequinned gowns for when you start your breakthrough broadway career, but you should definitely consider what kind of life you want to be living a few years down the road and cater your shopping wish list to this future. There are two practical reasons for this:
- Buying less clothing is better for you, your wallet, and the planet. If you think ahead when you shop, you will be less likely to discard items after a short period of use.
- Wearing the ‘uniform’ for a promotion, or any other life change can help motivate you to act towards your goals. I mean, how hard can it be when you already look like you are playing the part?
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